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Bobbe Nunes's avatar

Another home run, into the bleachers of life!

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Ooooh, I love that, Bobbe! I agree! Glad you enjoyed it!

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Jolene Handy's avatar

Thank you, Bobbe!

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Jeannie Ewing's avatar

Thank you for sharing Jolene with us, Jane!

Jolene, I love the "right, not rushed" wisdom you shared. Also about the value of being open and curious and kind. Kindness is, it seems to me, a word that has become watered down in a way. We hear it a lot but don't often pause to reflect on what it means to be kind.

I have a daughter who was born with a rare craniofacial anomaly called Apert syndrome, so she looks different than most people. In our family, we try to foster a genuine sense of kindness by treating all people with dignity and respect. We try to celebrate our differences.

It seems that many think kindness is akin to "being nice," but I think kindness goes deeper than polite conversation. It's about really seeing another person and being present with them, then honoring who they are. I'm so glad you mentioned this beautiful but often misunderstood word today!

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Jeannine, I couldn't agree more! Nice and kind are two different things! Nice can be performative. Kindness comes from the bones! I'm glad you enjoyed the interview! 🌸

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Jeannie Ewing's avatar

"Kindness comes from the bones" is right on, Jane. Well said.

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Jolene Handy's avatar

Thank you for your thoughtful and lovely comment on kindness, Jeannine. ❤️ (and “Right, not Rushed” works for so much!)

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Jeannie Ewing's avatar

I appreciate you responding to my comment, Jolene!

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Jolene Handy's avatar

❤️

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Erin Henderson's avatar

Jolene’s a force! What a treat to find this darling piece in my inbox this morning!

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Such a force!! I'm glad you enjoyed it, Erin!

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Jolene Handy's avatar

Aww, Erin 🤗

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Erin Henderson's avatar

Your library alone, Jolene, is worth its own newsletter! I’ve now got three more added to my TBR list! 📚

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Jolene Handy's avatar

You should see Tillie’s! 😆 📚 🐱

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Erin Henderson's avatar

😹

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Oh, that's lovely! Glad you enjoyed it, John!

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Jolene Handy's avatar

Thank you, John!

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Wendy Varley's avatar

I very much enjoy Jolene’s writing and wisdom. Great to see her featured, thank you, Jane and Jolene.

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

So happy you enjoyed it, Wendy!

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Jolene Handy's avatar

Wendy, thank you, so appreciate this! xx

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Megan A Arnold's avatar

Thank you so much for the introduction to Jolene! Adding her work and her recommendations to my already overflowing To Read List...

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

I'm so happy you enjoyed it, Megan! I know, so many great books!

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Jolene Handy's avatar

Megan, so nice to meet you here and thank you!

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Lorian's avatar

Down the rabbit hole with Maeve Brennan, thanks to this missive; what a treat! Your contributors never disappoint and these days, any good literary distraction is a lifesaver.

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Oh, yes, so many rabbit holes from these interviews! I've been down a few myself! So happy you enjoyed it, Lorian!

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Jolene Handy's avatar

Thank you, Lorian, it’s really wonderful, and the biography by Angela Bourke is a great companion read.

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Lorian's avatar

I will look for it! It's find such satisfaction reading the work of deserving writers, especially women and other marginalized people, who persevered so that the next generation could be taken seriously. Her sad end also reminds me that each day I am still able to write is a great gift not to be taken for granted.

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Jolene Handy's avatar

Completely agree, Lorian — I was stunned when I learned her story and so glad that her work is getting another look. As you pointed out, those who paved the way deserve their due.

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Sally Ekus's avatar

What a sweet interview and I am especially grateful for the shout out to my Not So Secret Agent newsletter!

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Oh, how wonderful! If you send me the link to that particular newsletter, I'll link it! Glad you enjoyed the interview, Sally!

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Sally Ekus's avatar

Thank you! This is the post Jolene was referring to. https://notsosecretagent.substack.com/p/right-not-rushed?r=6lue7

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Great! Just added it!

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Jolene Handy's avatar

“Right, not Rushed” is one of my mantras now, Sally! 😊

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Sally Ekus's avatar

It applies to SO MUCH

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Jolene Handy's avatar

Yes!!

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Asha Sanaker's avatar

I didn't know that about Frank McCourt! How happy that makes me after spending all day working in bed yesterday, at 53, just to get 8 more pages done on this memoir I'm writing, knowing it's only the second draft and there will likely be more after this one.

We'll all get there eventually if we just keep going.

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Yes, I've always found Frank McCourt's story so inspiring! Excited for yours to be out in the world! And glad you enjoyed the interview, Asha!

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Jolene Handy's avatar

Asha, I find Frank McCourt’s story so inspiring, too, thanks for your comment, onward we go! :)

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Ruth Stroud's avatar

Thoroughly enjoyable Q&A with one of my very favorite writers and people here on Substack. Thanks, Jane and Jolene!

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Jolene is so wonderful! Glad you enjoyed it, Ruth!

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Jolene Handy's avatar

Blushing ☺️

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Ruth Stroud's avatar

I did, Jane! Great questions too!

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Jolene Handy's avatar

Right back at ya, Ruth! xx

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Domenica Marchetti's avatar

Fantastic questions! And of course wonderful, thoughtful answers from Jolene. Thanks to you both!

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

So happy you enjoyed it, Domenica!

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Jolene Handy's avatar

Thank you, Domenica! xx

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Jillian Hess's avatar

I love Jolene, and I love Jane. This post made me squeal with delight. Also Leaves of Grass has my heart forever and ever. (I grew up in the town Whitman was born in...it's now home to the Walt Whitman mall.)

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

And we love you!! I'm so happy you were delighted, friend! Meanwhile: I had to google the Walt Whitman mall to see if it was a mall-mall. And it is! Oof!

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Jolene Handy's avatar

Love ya back, Jillian! Also: WW in Huntington? 😆

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Jolene Handy's avatar

Jane, thank you so much for inviting me!

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

I'm so happy you said yes!! I adore your answers!! 🌸

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Jolene Handy's avatar

My pleasure, Jane and thank you! xx

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