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Nov 30, 2023Liked by Jane Ratcliffe

I’m simultaneously aglow with inspiration and choking back tears. Something about Jeannine’s adept description of her childhood has started a forest fire in my head related to mine. Grateful for the opportunity to read this - thank you.

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I can well understand that happening, Michelle. Jeannine's words are powerful. I hope the forest fire manifests a beautiful phoenix! With love.

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A forest fire —- there is a phenomenon with fire where it can reignite long long after it seems to have gone out. Memory is like that! Thank you for reading ❤️

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So true!

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Shimmers and shards, Jeannine. Gorgeous shimmers and shards. These ones cracked my heart: Melting Colby cheese in a metal measuring cup over the gas flame of the stove as an afterschool snack. Stuffing bits of toilet paper over your braces to keep them from cutting up the inside of your cheeks, because *you, the child, had to take yourself to the orthodontist* and forgot. The bowls of milk petrified around the spoons into a shiny, impenetrable glue. These images show the loneliness and neglect you experienced in childhood 💔 AND your resilience ❤️‍🩹 Also your poetry machine is a marvel - love the article.

Thank you Jane for featuring this beautiful essay. Jeannine’s Substack is indeed much-cherished. I highly recommend.

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So glad you enjoyed this gorgeous essay, Monika. Yes to everything you wrote!

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Thank you so much, Monika. I love your close reading, and appreciate it very much and am very honored to be writing with you. xoxo

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♥️ ♥️ ♥️

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Nov 30, 2023·edited Nov 30, 2023Liked by Jane Ratcliffe

I don’t belong to the super ball generation but love Jeannine’s image of the super ball family tucked into their beds. If I see and feel the tenderness, I don’t need to see the toys themselves. I walked through the portal of this image and was once again a child tucking Steiff animals into their beds during a thunderstorm—conjuring safety by taking care of toys that seemed real.

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Yes to all of this. For me, it was my myriad stuffed animals all tucked in bed around me. I still believe stuffed animals are alive! Glad you enjoyed the piece.

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Rona!! Thank you for reading. It’s funny—I wasn’t really a super ball kid. I don’t know why I chose those rubber balls to be my little family. It was so strange, but I worked so hard at it. Yes, it seemed real. Thank you for feeling that!

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I was brought back to my childhood vacant lot adventures through reading this. I also meditated on how my daughters may be experiencing their world right now. I admire both Jane and Jeannine, and was delighted to find this in my inbox this morning!

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Thanks so much for your kind words, Michelle! I'm glad you enjoyed it. It's such a potent study of being human in today's world! Your daughters are lucky to have you as their mother!

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Thank you so much, Michelle. I suspect your girls feel the safety of your fierce, devoted love ❤️

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I love this essay with its luminous particulars. And the writing is so good it gives off not just light, but heat, and texture and motion. Beautiful.

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Loving your description - light, heat, texture and motion 😍 I’m declaring “luminous particulars” most cherished phrase of the day! 😄💕👏🏆

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Thank you so much, Jeffrey, for reading and for these words of heat and texture and motion. I really love that!

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Yes! I agree. So beautifully put!! I'm glad you enjoyed, Jeffrey!

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Nov 30, 2023Liked by Jane Ratcliffe

What a gift to be let into the particulars of Jeannine’s experience - both luminous and heartbreaking. My childhood was unreasonably easy and happy in most regards, but I know (from later in life traumas) that sense of being saved by devoting myself to noticing the seemingly insignificant particulars that build the world around me. One moment in particular comes to mind - lying in the grass in my backyard, my body shaking with tears because I was so sick that I feared I’d have to give up custody of my kids, and out of nowhere, a rabbit hopped up. He sat there looking at me, his whiskers glowing in the sunlight, and I lay there looking back. He twitched his nose at me, and that little motion was enough to twitch some small thing back into place within my own soul, so that I could make it through another moment (and then another and another). I’ve been saved by rabbit whiskers, frost on the fields, the veins of leaves, or grass between my toes more times than I can count.

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Yes, yes, yes to this Lisa! I've had so many of these same experiences. I feel like we're so lucky that we were able to notice the rabbits and whiskers and grass, et cetera, in those moments. They saved us! I'm so glad you enjoyed Jeannine's beautiful essay. And thank you so much for sharing your beautiful experiences. I think you have an essay in the works!

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“He twitched his nose at me, and that little motion was enough to twitch some small thing back into place within my own soul” - wowww!

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I love that, too!

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THIS! Lisa, thank you for sharing this. Yes, I've been saved similarly in adulthood, as you describe (and btw I am so happy you had that "unreasonably easy and happy childhood" because every child should, if only if only). But this: "I've been saved by rabbit whiskers, frost on the fields, the veins of leaves, or grass between. my toes." Yes, yes, yes. xo

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Nov 30, 2023Liked by Jane Ratcliffe

Thank you, Jeannine! I just subscribed to your newsletter and am so excited for the upcoming Story Challenge!

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Oh YAY!! Billie and I are very excited too (Billie is my youngest adult child, foster mom to Z, and helper with my Substack). We're actually spending the day tomorrow getting the curriculum plotted out and salons scheduled, etc. Super super excited!!

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Hello. Thank you for bringing Jeannine Ouellette’s splendid essay into my focus today. I’ve been truly overwhelmed by the surfeit of fine writing here since I first entered Substack less than two months ago. Neither my heart nor mind is fickle but I seem to acquire a new favorite writer almost every day; Jeannine became one early on.

This past week, I’ve also been reading a lot about a Jane Kenyon, whose work I first discovered in the late ‘90s. And I’d completely forgotten that John “Tim” Timmerman and my late second husband had been close writing friends when Craig attended the U of Michigan for his psychiatry residency in Grand Rapids. I believe Tim had just recently published his book on Kenyon when I met my husband, in 1999.

I’ve remarked elsewhere that Substack is more than a writers’ platform -- it’s the best kind of creative community, alive with inspiration, serendipity, generosity and mutual support and encouragement so vital for a writer’s growth. I’m glad to have encountered you.

As for your question(s) ... Can I get back to you? 😊

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What a lovely comment, Kathleen! Yes, so much beautiful writing here. And, yes, what a small world. In addition to the connections you've already made, I grew up in Michigan and attended UofM (AA) for my undergrad! Also: I love the name of your Substack. I'm embarrassed to admit, I had to google gallimaufry. What a great word! Thanks for introducing me to it! And I'm so glad you enjoyed Jeannine's beautiful essay!

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Kathleen, thank you so much! And that's inspiring that your late husband knew John "Tim" Timmerman. The world is very much connected and I can't help but marvel all the time at how the whole 6 degrees of separation becomes truer and truer the older I get. Thank you for reading!

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What an incredibly beautiful, insightful essay. I love so much of what she says here about poetry and focusing on passion rather than close attention—I find these are often intertwined. Writing has also saved me throughout my life and I loved how she weaves in her childhood experiences here and speaks to that survival mechanism.

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I'm so glad you enjoyed it, Cindy! I agree with everything you wrote. It's such a beautiful piece of writing. xx

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Thank you, Cindy! It is a survival mechanism, yes, and, as I get older, it's become also about thriving. Thank you again! xo

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I love tumbling into your world of words, Jeannine. So transporting and always inspiring. Thanks for demonstrating, once again, the magic of paying close attention. What a treat to read this essay and discover Beyond.

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I'm so glad you enjoyed the piece, Suzanne. Yes, so transporting and inspiring! And welcome to Beyond. Happy to have you here.

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Thank you friend. xoxoxo

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Your writing is lovely,affirming, & inspiring Jeannine. My childhood was spent roller skating, biking & longing for friends to play with, which I did interact with a few. I was outgoing yet shy. At age 10, I heard a neighbor playing, “Carole Kings’, “Tapestry”. Went straight home and wrote poetry for the first time. Music was a salvation and release for emotions, not allowed in my dysfunctional home. Catching Pill bugs, and watching them contract at touch...fascinated by the science of combining vinegar & baking soda. I wrote hundreds of songs, and poetry. Now at retirement, I will enjoy an unfettered life of creating art with words and artwork at last 🦋

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How lovely! Music was also a salvation for me, although, luckily, it was very welcomed in my (also-but-in-different ways dysfunctional!) home. Your retirement sounds beautiful. Enjoy!

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How beautiful, Butterfly!! And this: "an unfettered life of creating art with words and artwork at last" -- so be it, and so it is. Brava!

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When I was a child there was a narrow space between our garage and the neighbors chain link fence and I would find myself out collecting those small red berries that grow on long green vines that would become my potion in my makeshift back of garage lab where I would mix dirt and water and those red berries into a concoction that became my potion. For what, who knows I was just fascinated with science before I even knew what science was. Lovely essay to ponder the ole childhood. TY!

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How wonderful, Lisa! Did any of that carry on into adulthood? Science, cooking, painting, something else? I'm glad you enjoyed the essay!

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Oh yes it did. I love to paint and cook and am fascinated by these science programs so yes it did. Thanks for asking. 🙂

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I used to dig for "clay" in much the same way. Thank you for reading, Lisa xo

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Dec 3, 2023Liked by Jane Ratcliffe

Such an exquisite, tender, aching essay. Gorgeous in every way. Thank you for sharing here.

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I'm so glad you enjoyed it, Tami! And I agree with your take on it!

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I love the poem "computer!"

Potential Halloween costume for someone.

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Hahahaha right, I mean, ours was an appliance box, but computers have gotten A LOT smaller these days!

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I had a large six room wooden doll house complete with carpeting and wall paper. I loved the couch with removable pillows and a white grand piano with opening top. Every day after school, I made up stories with the doll house people, often modeled after the soap operas my mother watched. And yes, some of those little people jumped off the roof.

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Oh, Evelyn! This sounds wonderful! Except for the people jumping off the roof! Hopefully they all survived. Thank you for sharing! xx

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Daily renewal. Daily possibility of what can be. My daily birth ❤️

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Beautiful! xx

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Ive just realised the link on beyond isn’t active.

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The link to the book? It appears to be active on my end. What happens when you click on it?

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Nothing happens here. Maybe because I'm in Ireland?

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