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I’m going to make a salad for a friend tonight and think of this.

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Sep 30Liked by Jane Ratcliffe

Jane, MAKE HER A SALAD IN YOUR MIND is perhaps the greatest bit of advice ever offered. So gentle and magnificent. How the lamas know the exact wisdom to share is truly mystifying. Did the act of making a mental salad, and then eventually a real salad, lead to other solutions in other similar situations? I'd love to know how the suggestion took seed elsewhere:)

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Oct 16Liked by Jane Ratcliffe

So sorry you lost your Auntie Marge, but what a gift it seems she was to your life.

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Oct 15Liked by Jane Ratcliffe

Oh what a glorious human being, writer and Capricorn you are! Familiar with the terrain of our Winter Birthdays, I rejoice in your capacity to throw caution to the wind, even when it's fiercely blowing, and give us your loving wisdom. Bravo Jane!

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Oct 15Liked by Jane Ratcliffe

Beautiful Jane. Loved reading this and sending love from japan what a tribute to your community of elders that loved you and supported you. Hugs and xoxox

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Ironic, serendipity or just us expressing thoughts and feelings about elderliness. Is that a word? Now it is. Regardless, Jane, you're not quite into my category of elders although you're getting closer. I just wrote a blurb about one of my grandmothers, and wrote one about a grandfather a week or so ago. At 86, I am in the last quarter of this game and will play it joyfully and fully until the end. We are fortunate to have learned so much from our elders and blessed by their love and attention.

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Oct 3·edited Oct 3Liked by Jane Ratcliffe

Oh Jane, I remember this time so well, and the salad suggestion! I’ve always loved how willing you are to grapple with emotional discomfort - it’s an inspiration ❤️

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Oct 2Liked by Jane Ratcliffe

I loved your vulnerability in this newsletter. I too am a recovering Jealously addict and I find so much peace in pausing and reminding myself to 'bless that which you desire'.

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Oct 2Liked by Jane Ratcliffe

Wow I LOVE the salad story Rat! I can see why this strategy works. Also I know it doesn’t HAVE to be salad but the idea of making a salad in my head for someone is funny and makes me smile, so I am totally going to try this!

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"Make her a salad in your head". I'm grateful for that and to you for sharing it.

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Grateful for you for sharing your wisdom and insights on living, grateful for each new day as the gift that it is, and grateful to all our teachers, mentors, friends and families for unmitigated love. You must know Judy Lief, yes? I just re-read a post of hers from August 30, 2022 on Death and as you might expect, it is choc-a-block full of Buddhist teachings that enrich all of us beyond measure.

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