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Jeneane Nicodemus's avatar

I love this! West’s statement “we’re in this together!” Life changing words. I’ve learned over the years to lean in to kindness. It’s been part of my own healing journey. Being from dysfunction, my trauma response has always been to not need others. Super independence kept me from being hurt. In 2013 at 46 years old my congenital heart disease caught up to me and left me broke, and broken and very much alone. My strength and independence crawled forward, I handled my sh*t and inched along. Then I met a man who my friend wanted to set me up with. “No thanks, “ I said to him after several kind conversations. As nice a man he was, “My life is a mess. My life can’t handle more confusion,” I told him. Later he ordered 3 pies from me (I was making pies to supplement my income after the surgery caused me to lose my job). This man doesn’t eat three pies, barely a slice, since he is focused on hiking and adventuring. “You do not need three pies,” I laughed. We spoke for a minute and he sensed my resistance. I asked him “why he was being so nice to me- nobody is this nice to me?” He said this “you’ve been through a hard time. Maybe it’s time someone noticed and was kind.”

I am pretty good at crying. I cried, blubbered, grabbed a Kleenex and wiped the snot from my nose. I accepted his order, his friendship and later his love. I’m so grateful. His kindness has changed me in a way I hadn’t expected.

I’m so happy you are going to let West help in your healing. Reciprocity is how a good world functions. Thank you for sharing and also letting me share and remember.

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itzbeezys's avatar

Thank you for sharing. Your words hit so many levels. While it may seem so, you’re not alone! Keep sharing your positivity, Jane!! ✌️✨

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