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Mesa Fama's avatar

Awwww yayyy Amy!!! So happy to see you here. 😍😍😍 All the yes to all of this - especially the support piece! The showing up for each other even if it’s in little comment boxes sometimes feels like it’s everything. β€οΈβ€πŸ©Ήβ€οΈβ€πŸ©Ή

Amy Gabrielle's avatar

It's funny because I don't think its a big deal when I make supportive comments on others' posts, but when I get those types of comments on my writing it means everything.

Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

I soooooo agree, Mesa!! Kind comments, no matter how small, can mean everything! I so appreciate how Amy highlighted that! ❀️

Joanie Madsen's avatar

Me Too, ME TOO! πŸ’œ

Bonnie Solomon's avatar

I love this! So many facets and (glittery) layers, and yes to supporting one another. Also thank you for The Midnight Croissant shout-out! πŸ’–

Amy Gabrielle's avatar

People need to know about Pearly and The Midnight Croissant πŸ₯°πŸŽ‰ I’m just doing my part to get the word out.

Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

I love that: glittery layers! So true! And, yes-yes, to supporting one another!! And congrats on your book, Bonnie!

Bonnie Solomon's avatar

Thank you!

Mary P.'s avatar

Amy thank you for sharing your story. Your last response to the question is impactful.

From Amyβ€”

Humans have created too many structures that divide us, like religion, race, and the gender binary. The DNA of any two people on Earth is approximately ninety-nine point nine percent identical. At our core, we all want to be loved and appreciated for who we are. My guiding force is dismantling hierarchical cultural and economic systems that relegate so many to the margins.

Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

I love that quote, too, Mary! So potent!! I'm glad you enjoyed the interview!

Amy Gabrielle's avatar

Thank you so much Mary! I’m happy this resonated with you. I advocate strongly for equity and equality.πŸ₯°

Mary Roblyn's avatar

Amy, my friend from way back when I started on Substack! I’m incredibly proud of you. I love how you’ve turned those honest and gut-punching essays into an amazing book. I couldn’t be more thrilled for your success! Love you!πŸ’›πŸ₯°πŸ’•πŸŽŠπŸŽ‰πŸ‘

Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Yes to all of this, Mary!! ❀️

Amy Gabrielle's avatar

I’m only blushing a little bit @Mary Roblyn. I remember when I found your essay about how you mimicked dancing when trying to lift your husband in the bathroom. I related to being in a situation that would have been comical under completely different circumstances and how that added another layer of grief. You are such a good writer Mary, and I’m so happy you keep coming back to writing over and over. You are meant to be here, your voice is meant to be heard. You’ve made an impact on so many Substackeans (is that a word? I guess it is now 🀣), especially me. ❀️

Mary Roblyn's avatar

Amy, I’m so glad that we found each other here. Substack is my home, and you really liven up the place. Your writing means so much to me. You’ve shown me that grief is not just one thing, and that each of us experiences it in ways that may seem inappropriate or even shameful. Your willingness to share your full range of emotion shows true integrity. Thank you for being here, my friend.

Amy Gabrielle's avatar

Not me screenshotting @Mary Roblyn’s comment and taping it to my mirror as a reminder when I doubt myself. Wait, who said that? Not me. Carry on everyone, nothing to see here. I’m just a normal midlife woman with perfectly healthy self-esteem 24/7 🀣πŸ₯Ή Thank you Mary ❀️πŸ₯°

Paulette Bodeman's avatar

Thanks, Amy and Jane, for sharing your story.

I, too, have a copy of The Prophet that my mother gifted me many long years ago, with her inscription. It's a treasure.

Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

I'm happy you enjoyed the interview, Paulette! I was given two copies of The Prophet when I graduated from Art School. One by my boss; I forget who gave me the other! Such a beautiful book! Even more meaningful with inscriptions from beloveds!

Paulette Bodeman's avatar

That's so cool, Jane. Yes, the other book my mother gifted me and inscribed, which I still have, held together with a rubber band, is Gifts from the Sea by Anne Morrow Lindbergh. It makes me so curious about the woman my mother was, beyond being a mother. It's a thread I'm exploring in my second book.

Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

I'm not familiar with that book. I will have to look it up. So true, these books are insights into our parents, aren't they. Beautiful!

Paulette Bodeman's avatar

If you do, I’d love to hear your thoughts, Jane.

Amy Gabrielle's avatar

Thank you Paulette! I love that you have a gifted copy of The Prophet with an inscription too. πŸ₯°

Paulette Bodeman's avatar

I pull it out every now and then and wonder what my mother was thinking when she gave it to me. Who she was at that time in her life. Thanks for sharing, Amy.

Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Oh, that's beautiful! ❀️

Joanie Madsen's avatar

Me too, and mine is inscribed and a treasure. Amy and I had a moment around that awhile back. πŸ’œ

Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

How lovely, Joanie!! ❀️

Amy Gabrielle's avatar

I remember Joanie πŸ₯°β€οΈ

Paulette Bodeman's avatar

Oh, that’s so lovely, Joanie! Sweet.

Nancy Hesting's avatar

Yes, I love the comments also. It may not seem much to most people, but It is so important to me to receive comments, and to know that I'm not writing into the void. Great Q & A, Amy.

Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Yes to kind comments!! Verbal or written! So happy you enjoyed the interview, Nancy!

Amy Gabrielle's avatar

Thank you Nancy! I’m so glad this resonated with you. P.S. I’m putting something in the mail for you today πŸ₯°

Rona Maynard's avatar

Congratulations, Amy! I’m excited to read it soon.

Amy Gabrielle's avatar

I can’t wait for you to read it @Rona Maynard ! πŸ₯°

Rona Maynard's avatar

It launches a bit later here in Canada.

Elizabeth Marro's avatar

I have those very sneakers and bought them to celebrate my 25th wedding anniversary. They make me so happy. A lovely interview, thank you to both of you.

Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Oh my gosh, that's wild you also have them, Elizabeth! They're fabulous!! So happy you enjoyed the interview!! 🌸

Amy Gabrielle's avatar

Yay for fancy sneakers! They have a little lift in them too, which doesn’t hurt for someone like me who is 5’2” and shrinking. I appreciate your kind words @Elizabeth Marro πŸ₯°

Imola's avatar

I can totally relate to that duality in grief... And those sneakers are fabulous!!

Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Yes and yes! 🌸

Amy Gabrielle's avatar

Thank you @Imola ! I do love my sneakers πŸ₯°β€οΈ

Istiaq Mian, MD's avatar

Love that your parents gifted you a book as a teenager and it became a prized possession! Agree that encouraging words can totally become a lifeline. And very wise words about what we control (and don’t control). This writer is looking forward to reading Amy’s memoir!

Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Yes to all of this, Istiaq! Glad you enjoyed it!

Amy Gabrielle's avatar

Thank you so much @Istiaq Mian, MD ! I can’t wait for your review πŸ₯°

Simone Senisin's avatar

Hi Amy, why a journey, l am so grateful for this community and the connections. Wouldn’t it be great for us to all sit at a table … l imagine that scenario often. Your book is somewhere in transit, looking forward to adding it to my collection πŸ™πŸ’š

Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Happy you enjoyed the interview, Simone!

Simone Senisin's avatar

πŸ™πŸ˜ŠπŸ’œ

Amy Gabrielle's avatar

I don’t have a lot of faith in the U.S. postal service, (and many other US systems) but I have my fingers crossed that the book will arrive soon. If you want to get started on a pdf version, I’m happy to email it to you. No pressure, just drop me a DM with your email if you are interested. And yes, it would be wonderful to all be together in person! XO πŸ₯°β€οΈ

Simone Senisin's avatar

You’re sweet 😊, l have just checked my email. I ordered it from Booktopia Australia, it’s being posted by Australia Post, so it should be here when l get back from my camping trip 😊. Our postal service is slow too. ❀️

Summer Koester's avatar

Yeah Amy!

Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Happy you enjoyed it, Summer! ❀️

Amy Gabrielle's avatar

πŸ₯°β€οΈ

kaylen alexandra's avatar

Thank you for this delightfully sparkly interview of our Queen Amy, Jane! ✨🀍

Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Aw, I love that kaylen! So happy you enjoyed it! ❀️

Amy Gabrielle's avatar

Sparkly isn’t my middle name, but maybe it should be? Or bedazzled? I’ll sleep on it. πŸ₯°

kaylen alexandra's avatar

Bedazzled!! πŸ˜πŸ˜‚βœ¨βœ¨

Mary Beth Spray's avatar

I love watching you Amy move forward.

Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Such beautiful answers, I agree!

Amy Gabrielle's avatar

Thank you Mary Beth! πŸ₯°β€οΈ

Constellations Amy Razeghi's avatar

Amy! All this glittery literary and fashionista wisdom truly celebrates your voice and brings so many wonderful human beings together. :) We are mostly H20 and squishy soft souls who want to share stories and be seen and heard. Dogs are so good at this!

From Judy Blume to

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/From_the_Mixed-Up_Files_of_Mrs._Basil_E._Frankweiler

We’ve all read the same books!!

I too have an inscribed copy of The Prophet too from my parents. His name means, β€œPoet.”

I was in grade school so of course wrote my name inside with a crayon. :)

Can’t wait to read your work! πŸ₯°

And congratulations πŸŽ‰ Bonnie!! I hope others enjoy Pearly and The Midnight Croissant πŸ₯!!!

Wonderful interview!

Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

I'm so happy you enjoyed it, Amy! How wonderful you also have an inscribed copy of The Prophet from your parents. This is inspiring me to pull mine off the shelf!!

Constellations Amy Razeghi's avatar

I’ve admired your work since The Sun!β˜€οΈ And equally happy for you. Merci Jane Joon. Off the shelf and into a Substack Book Club, perhaps? Or possibly enjoy returning to all the poetry and literature that brings you joy as well? 🍡🍯🌱

Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Oh, thank you, Amy! That means so much! xx

Constellations Amy Razeghi's avatar

You’re welcome, Jane! Xx

Amy Gabrielle's avatar

Omg, I love that we read all the same books and that you also have an inscribed copy of The Prophet from your parents πŸ₯°. I’m so happy this interview resonated with you. I joke that I am like a mermaid who collects shiny objects 🀣. I do love my sneakers ❀️

Constellations Amy Razeghi's avatar

How else could I get to NYC from Saint Louis and Illinois without the Mixed-Up Files? Proud of you, πŸ§œβ€β™€οΈ Mermaid! *splash* and yes, your voice does resonate with me and others. Keep shining!

Alice Elliott Dark's avatar

Beautiful interview. I loved living with the babysitter and her dog by a pool, and I loved the guiding knowledge of how much we are all alike and want the same thingsβ€”and they are peaceful desires. Amy Gabrielle's soul shines through these answers.

Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Ooooh, Alice, how beautifully put: they are peaceful desires. That made my heart sing. I'm glad you enjoyed it! ❀️

Amy Gabrielle's avatar

Alice, thank you for this kind and generous comment. We did have so much fun those summers with my son’s sitter, Charlotte, and her beloved dog, Milo. Wishing you a happy Monday and a wonderful week ahead. πŸ₯°