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K DeZur's avatar

I love this essay. I also lost my mother when I was a child (10), and I treasure her mementos, including clothes and albums. They suggest to me, like they do for Carmel, a woman who was more than my mom, who I didn’t get to know as an adult knows another. Thank you for sharing this.

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

I'm sorry you also lost your mother so young. Thank you for sharing your experiences. I can imagine how complex and sad that must be to not to have known your mom as an adult. I'm glad you have those mementos!

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Carmel Breathnach's avatar

Thank you for reading my essay, and sharing a little of your own experience. I'm truly sorry for your loss. It's heartbreaking for a little girl to lose her mom. I see you.

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Jillian Hess's avatar

Carmel’s writing is gorgeous! The audio version adds another very welcome personal layer. Thanks for this! Also: can I hire her to record all of my posts? 😂

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Thanks, Jillian! And, I know! That voice!

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Carmel Breathnach's avatar

Thank you so much, Jillian! I really appreciate your kind words. And yes, I'm available to record! :) lol

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Lola James's avatar

So so beautiful, such incredible writing ❤️

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

I’m so glad you enjoyed it! And I agree! ❤️

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Carmel Breathnach's avatar

Lola, thank you so much for this lovely comment. I really appreciate it.

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Cheryl Strayed's avatar

Absolutely gorgeous, Carmel. Thank you for telling these honest stories about mother loss.

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

It's such a lovely piece.

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Carmel Breathnach's avatar

Thank you so much , Cheryl. I really appreciate your encouragement and these kind words.

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Grace Mattioli's avatar

I adore this piece. The writing is so beautiful and heartfelt. I lost my mom at 15 so it really resonates with me. The other thing I really love is how Carmel embraces the power of music, which I believe to be the greatest gift we have.

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Thanks for your kind words, Grace. I'm sorry you lost your mom so young. It changes the whole trajectory of your life. And, yes, music is so potent and healing!

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Grace Mattioli's avatar

Thank you Jane. So sorry this reply comes late but I'm barely ever on Substack.

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Carmel Breathnach's avatar

Thank you so much, Grace. I really appreciate your kind words and feedback.

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Maxine Gibson's avatar

So beautiful. My mother was a singer too.

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Thanks, Max. Singing moms are wonderful!

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Carmel Breathnach's avatar

Thank you, Maxine.

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Peg Conway's avatar

Gorgeous!! I experienced all the feels while reading.

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Aw, thanks, Peg. I know just what you mean!

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Carmel Breathnach's avatar

Thanks so much, Peg. I appreciate you.

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Cynthia's avatar

Thank you for your beautiful essay. It truly resonates with me. I look forward to reading your memoir, Carmel!❤️

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

I look forward to reading it, as well!

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Cynthia's avatar

I love your Substack!🙌

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Thank you!

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Carmel Breathnach's avatar

Thank you so much, Cynthia. That means a lot to me.

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Erin Khar's avatar

So beautifully written, Carmel!!

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Isn't it lovely!

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Erin Khar's avatar

Yes!! <3

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Carmel Breathnach's avatar

That means so much, Erin, thank you!

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Jane Ratcliffe's avatar

Yes, I can imagine that would be hard. As soon as you have children, the world feels so different. Wishing your whole family long and healthy lives!

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Carmel Breathnach's avatar

Thank you for reading my piece and for your kind words, Garrett. Sending my best wishes to you and your family.

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